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We all know it’s hard to stop having feelings for your ex once a relationship is over.  Enough groveling and feeling sad for yourself . It’s time to pick up the pieces of your shattered heart!

Here’s how:

1. Unfriend them on facebook. Unfollow them on Twitter. Unlink them on LinkedIn.
I know you won’t be able to see their status updates on your newsfeeds, the new pictures they post or are tagged in, who they are now friends with, etc.  Stop stalking and start clicking: REMOVE THIS PERSON AS A FRIEND.

2. Go out with your friends.
I don’t care if you are not in the mood or you don’t feel like yourself. You have to go out and have some fun. It’s OK if you talk about your ex for a few minutes but if it starts to take up the entire conversation all night long – stop talking. This is a time to let loose and relax with good people.

3. Put away all their things.
Now notice, I didn’t say throw their things out. I have a theory about this. As long as their things are out of sight, it’s fine. You will know you have progressed immensely when you take a glance at an old photo album of you two, or look at a necklace he gave you one Christmas and not care at all about it.

4. Don’t try to get your stuff back.
Just think of it as a sunk cost.

5. Push them off that pedestal.
Don’t idolize them and build them up into something great. They’re not. So even if they call you/email /BBM/IM/text –  whatever form of digital communication they choose – don’t go out of your way for them. No longer do they deserve preferential treatment.

6. Don’t look for a new love right away.
It may seem like a good idea to jump onto eharmony or match.com, have someone fix you up, or go out with your friends and try to pick up a new person. But I really feel like when you are not looking for love, it happens. People know when you are on the hunt. They can feel your intensity and insecurity and run the other way. This is only going to lower your self esteem if you keep getting rejected or not find someone right away.

7. Remember the bad times.
If you start to feel nostalgic, then think of all the times he was an a$$ and she was a bitch to you. That should do it. Remember when he forgot your birthday? Or that time when she made you go to the mall all day with her and you missed your Alma Mater play in that Bowl game?

8. Stay busy.
Get a hobby: try cooking, learning a new language, or even better – start seducing somebody they were always jealous of.  Oops, if that gets back to them

Thoughts? Think I am crazy or on the right track?

Happy Wednesday everyone.

I have started doing something new with my music choices. I decided that each day I will focus on a certain letter of the alphabet and that’s the only music I can listen to for the day. I know, a bit crazy but let’s just go with it for a minute…

For instance, the other day was “A.” Grabbed the subway and listened to “Addicted to Love.” And, this even meant that while I was on the bike at the gym later that night and “All Cried Out” and “Against All Odds” came on, I listened. I have to admit, that those “A” songs in particular were not the most “gym pumping” choices, but I kept them all despite that fact.

Today, is “B” Wednesday. I might get anything from Lady Gaga’s “Bad Romance” to Lionel Richie’s “Ballerina Girl.” You just never know what “B” song Wednesday will bring.

This “ABC” concept made me think about a new idea for my scrapbooks. Create a book for your family and friends in alphabetical order. For instance, think about your mom. Does she make the most amazing apple pie? Boom, there’s your “A” page. Cut out a delicious picture of an apple pie and paste a picture of your mom baking. Does she always blast the Beatles in the car? Tah Dah – George, Paul, John, Ringo, and your mom on the page.

Perfect gift? I think so!

If you are interested in a gift like this to give to someone, let me know! I would be happy to create it for you. Email me at info@giftscrap.com

Have an Ace of Base “Beautiful Day.”